Comments on: Lessons from a Heart Attack http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/2009/03/10/lessons-from-a-heart-attack/ Thoughts on Agile software development, facilitation, communication, and relationships in the personal and professional worlds, from Steven "Doc" List Sun, 22 Jan 2012 18:20:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Hates_ http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/2009/03/10/lessons-from-a-heart-attack/comment-page-1/#comment-273 Hates_ Wed, 11 Mar 2009 10:32:46 +0000 http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/?p=292#comment-273 All very important lessons. When I fight with my gf I still tell her I love her and she asks how can I say it when we've just had a fight. I tell her that even though the mood sucks, I still love her and never want to leave without not having told her how I feel incase something ever happens, because you never know what's waiting round the corner All very important lessons. When I fight with my gf I still tell her I love her and she asks how can I say it when we’ve just had a fight. I tell her that even though the mood sucks, I still love her and never want to leave without not having told her how I feel incase something ever happens, because you never know what’s waiting round the corner

]]> By: Steven "Doc" List http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/2009/03/10/lessons-from-a-heart-attack/comment-page-1/#comment-264 Steven "Doc" List Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:08:28 +0000 http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/?p=292#comment-264 Jo, About that one person - just say it simply. Like "I'm glad you're in my life" or "I like having you around" - work up to it in stages if you need to, but say it. Telling someone you feel good about them - you like them, you like being around them, you like talking with them - is a generous gift that benefits both people. I always get teary-eyed and mushy when I tell someone how I feel, and I do it regardless, because it's important. ...Doc Jo,

About that one person – just say it simply. Like “I’m glad you’re in my life” or “I like having you around” – work up to it in stages if you need to, but say it.

Telling someone you feel good about them – you like them, you like being around them, you like talking with them – is a generous gift that benefits both people.

I always get teary-eyed and mushy when I tell someone how I feel, and I do it regardless, because it’s important.

…Doc

]]> By: Jo http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/2009/03/10/lessons-from-a-heart-attack/comment-page-1/#comment-263 Jo Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:04:45 +0000 http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/?p=292#comment-263 Awww, Doc. This post is awesome. Thanks for sharing and being so open, honest, helpful and - hmm - loving. Thanks for posting so often and giving me so much helpful and thought-provoking stuff to read. I really like the "I'm sorry" part, how you say it doesn't mean you've done something wrong, but it does mean there's *something* wrong. I think that's true, but up until now I've always felt it more meant that I'd done something wrong, and that's probably kept me from saying it in some instances. I also like the part about telling someone how you feel about them. I always struggle with this. There's this one person in particular in my life whom I care about, toward whom I'm never sure how to communicate my care. I really like this post. Thanks so much, and kudos. Jo Awww, Doc. This post is awesome. Thanks for sharing and being so open, honest, helpful and – hmm – loving. Thanks for posting so often and giving me so much helpful and thought-provoking stuff to read.

I really like the “I’m sorry” part, how you say it doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong, but it does mean there’s *something* wrong. I think that’s true, but up until now I’ve always felt it more meant that I’d done something wrong, and that’s probably kept me from saying it in some instances.

I also like the part about telling someone how you feel about them. I always struggle with this. There’s this one person in particular in my life whom I care about, toward whom I’m never sure how to communicate my care.

I really like this post. Thanks so much, and kudos.

Jo

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