Posts Tagged ‘self-awareness’

I’m still here

Coping and Communicating, Musings | Posted by Doc
Jun 09 2010

Fourteen years ago today, roughly five hours from now as I write this, I felt the beginnings of my heart attack. That experience – the whole heart attack experience – was a revelation to me, and I continue to celebrate my survival and growth.

Perhaps it seems obvious that a heart attack could change one’s outlook on and . Sadly, I’ve met too many people who survived and went right back to doing and being who they were.

As part of my annual celebration, let me share my three lessons once more:

  1. Don’t wait until tomorrow to say “I love you” – you might not have a tomorrow, and wouldn’t it be sad not to let people know how you feel about them.
  2. Don’t wait until tomorrow to say “I’m sorry” – those words don’t mean that you’re wrong or that you’re apologizing, and they do contribute to someone else’s happiness – what does it cost you to say?
  3. Don’t wait until tomorrow to say “thank you” – gratitude, as love, friendship, regret, , and so many other expressions, is best served up warm.

Thank you, whoever you are, for being a part of my rich and continuing life.

Don’t wait until tomorrow.

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A Metallica power ballad?

Coping and Communicating, Musings | Posted by Doc
Aug 31 2009

Having arrived in San Francisco last night, I was feeling somewhat poetic.  Or so I thought.  So I tweeted something about listening to the rumble of the cable cars down on the street.

A friend sent me the following tweet…

Him: Dammit Steven…who cares? Love you man, but your tweet content is sometimes questionable. BTW, I’m sitting at my kitchen table ;)

Me: I’m happy that you love me :) I’ll strive for greater profundity

Him: Your profundity inspires me. When you get off track, it’s like when Metallica does a power ballad ;)

So here I am wondering about something that I’ve talked to others about… everything I tweet, as well as everything I blog, and everything I say in any public situation, contributes to how I’m perceived in the world. Since the world includes my professional community, it’s incumbent on me to think about what I say and how I say it.  Right?

I believe that it is. So when I tweet something about the weather or where I’m having dinner, it contributes to people’s opinion and impression of me, sometimes in very subtle ways. Mostly, I think about that before I tweet.  Sometimes I just think “the heck with it – I feel like saying this” and I go ahead.

I know several people whose or blog is DRAMATICALLY different from their in-person . This always makes me wonder.  For instance, some folks are amazingly nice in person, but downright caustic electronically.  I don’t get that. Why should there be such a difference, and why do they do it?

So I’m occasionally random and pointless, and clearly this annoys/disappoints/frustrates at least one friend and Twitter follower. It definitely gives me pause for thought.

How does my humor come across? How do my random/sarcastic/playful comments come across? Am I really being aware of not only myself, but how I affect others? And am I considering this in the generally-less-safe in-person context and the generally-more-safe electronic context?

This is one of the big lessons: being self-aware is work, and the work is never done.

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