The Doctor Is In » violent agreement http://www.stevenlist.com/blog Thoughts on Agile software development, facilitation, communication, and relationships in the personal and professional worlds, from Steven "Doc" List Sun, 09 Oct 2011 17:33:27 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Facilitation Antipattern: The Gladiator http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/2009/02/03/facilitation-antipattern-the-gladiator/ http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/2009/02/03/facilitation-antipattern-the-gladiator/#comments Tue, 03 Feb 2009 20:52:03 +0000 Doc http://www.stevenlist.com/blog/?p=86 gladiatorMotto: It’s all about the combat!
Belief: The best results come from /argument.
: Challenging and confrontational.
Characteristics: Doesn’t take it personally, and doesn’t understand why you do.

There are some people who seem to be happiest when they are immersed in of various sorts.  “” is frequently heard, along with being told that it’s more interesting that way, or that you shouldn’t have to hold back, or that it’s not personal, or…

The problem is that most people do not respond positively to being attacked, assaulted, dominated, overwhelmed with perceived verbal and physical violence. They frequently do take it personally.

As a , behaving this way is right up there with the – you just shouldn’t be facilitating, unless it’s the Ultimate Fighting Championships!

As a participant, you contribute to creating a situation in which no one else is interested in speaking up. Why speak up when someone is going to challenge you to a fight? That’s not fun for most people.

Dealing with The requires the patience and to talk to them directly and ask them to tone it down. In many cases, Gladiators are not actually bad people – they’ve just fallen into a pattern of behavior that has worked for them.

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